If you know me at all, you know that I am not a huge fan of the standard Law of Attraction formula pushed by the mainstream gurus of: affirmations, vision boards, positive thinking, repeat. I have my reasons for this, which I will get into in this article. But rather than just bag on things, I’d like to offer another “better-than-affirmations” practice that can be done in less than 5 minutes. You can use this when you want to do some work on yourself, to improve the terrain of your mind, and to genuinely think and act more powerfully in your life.
But first I’ll admit, I didn’t come up with this one. I was recently taught this by a friend of mine while visiting her for a hypnosis session (which was an amazing experience. Thank you Shelly!).
While doing my session with Shelly I was happy to hear that she holds the same sentiment as I do about affirmations and positive thinking. The idea of chipping away at a mountain of negative or limiting beliefs in the unconscious mind by repeating an affirmation over and over again with the conscious mind is daunting. It (might) work, over a long, long, period of time. But who wants to wait to live a better life longer than they have to?
You see as they explain it in the world of hypnosis, we each have a part of our brain, sometimes referred to as the “critical factor” that filters every command, idea, or suggestion that comes through our conscious mind and deems it either true or false, before passing it along to add to our deeper mind. You can be aware of how obvious this is when someone says something to you that is blatantly false, but you can also feel it more subtly in the form of resistance and doubt when you speak an affirmation out loud that doesn’t resonate with your deeper belief system.
And in the most simple terms this is why I don’t believe that affirmations of just plain “positive thinking” is very helpful. You can bombard your critical factor with an assault of positive words, commands, or intentions and hope that some of them make it through one day, or you can find more creative ways to get around it without acting in denial of how you already feel, or putting on a front to yourself about what is actually going on inside your mind.
So here is just one of the many ways we can do this. I am a big fan of this because it involves writing, and writing is great in the way it engages different parts of your mind: visual, kinesthetic, and auditory (because you tend to internally read what you write out loud).
This practice can be done any time you wish to clear out some negative thinking, or can be done more regularly, or even daily, to help make a big shift in your thinking patterns and deeper belief systems.
So start with a blank piece of paper and your pen. Draw a horizontal line all the way across the top, then draw a vertical line from the middle of that line all the way down the page. (Basically in the shape of a giant “T”).
You now have two columns. One on the left and one on the right.
Now is your time to search through your mind for any negative thoughts, feelings, or beliefs that are troubling you or holding you back. This is the time to be self-aware, not to be “positive” or in denial. Write these down on the left side of the page.
Now say them out loud and feel how it feels. Give them a voice and give them your attention.
Now in the right-hand column, write a positive affirmation, statement, thought, or feeling to counteract each negative you’ve written down. NOW is the time to be positive, creative, and optimistic. At this point your paper should look a bit like this:
Now say these out loud, multiple times if necessary. Feel how this feels.
Once you’ve done this, scribble out the negatives completely on the piece of paper. Like this:
This is more than a silly gesture, this is communicating a message to your unconscious mind. Once you feel completely satisfied with your scribbles, feel free to read the positive messages a few more times. You can even crumple up or burn the paper at this point if you’d like.
Again, this is much more effective than trying to force your mind to think positive while resisting negative thoughts, as those negative thoughts came from somewhere much deeper than your conscious mind. Ignoring or slapping different thoughts on them consciously doesn’t really address their root causes. It is better than positive affirmations, as it is communicating more to your unconscious mind about the changes you’d like to make at that deeper level, rather than just bumping up against your own “bullshit” radar over and over again.
I hope you find this practice to be fun, easy, and helpful to you on your journey.
If you find this information interesting and would like to learn more about tools that go beyond affirmations and positive thinking, here are few places to start:
brainwavelove.com/free-success-coaching/– A quick coaching video on how you can use questions to program your unconscious.
brainwavelove.com/change-your-life-question–More on the subject of using questions to program the mind
Brainwavelove.com/personal-law-package– The most effective technique I know of for addressing deep-seated limiting beliefs
brainwavelove.com/category/life-coaching –Or just visit this section of our blog to read up on all kinds of knowledge dealing with the mind, how to live a better life, and how to hack the unconscious mind to find the success you are looking for.
Wishing you the best as always,